I just read an article on Rainbow Kids (dot) com about a new show ABC is putting on the air called Find My Family. Here is part of the article:
In the most exploitive and disparaging-of-adoption media effort yet, ABC will air a sneak peak’ of their new series Find My Family on Monday, November 23rd. With a sensationalized and soap-opera style, ABC will take viewers into the lives of adoptees and birth families in their Search to be reunited.
With the tagline ” Some people have spent their whole lives searching for the one thing that matters most… Their wish will now come true. Let’s Find Your Family, producers completely discount any worth of the adoptive families who have loved and raised these children. Instead the show emphasizes the loss of a child’s ‘real family’ as the one-and-only central issue of all adopted children’s lives.
The entire premise of this show is upsetting on so many levels. I encourage every family of an adopted child to prepare mentally for the public reaction, and the reaction of their children who may find themselves the sudden center of assumptions about their needs, desires, and personal feelings on their adoption.
This new series is being heavily promoted on ABC. Created by the producer of Extreme Makeover, Find My Family is laden with emotional angst and tearful moments meant to increase ratings and viewership. Unfortunately, the general public’s opinion and understanding of adoption is largely shaped by the media. ABC’s exploitive new series will focus on the most extreme issues in adoption, and is sure to have an effect on how our children’s teachers, extended family, and friends view and accept adoption.
For years, the adoptive community has sought to rectify the past vilification of birth-parents as people who gave away their children. Birth parents are now widely recognized as the First Parents of children, deserving of love, respect, and understanding. It is in no one’s best interest to turn the tables and begin to portray adoptive families as second-class, or less-than’ a family created biologically. This new series is a step back for everyone.
Search and reunion of adoptees and birth families is part of adoption, and always will be. All adoptive families and birth families are connected through our children, whether we accept that idea or not. Our children bind us. It is a precious, priceless connection. This show cheapens and sensationalizes what is sacred. ABC, your show is an insult, and hopefully a flop.
If you are an adoptive family, you may want to check out the rest of the article which gives you ideas about how to talk with your children about the issues that may come up from friends or family who see the show and have questions because of it.
If you want to see a preview of the show you can find it here.
Thank you for reading, Lori