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Kalindi – Learning June 11, 2009

Filed under: Adoption,Family,Home Schooling,Reading — Lori @ 3:20 pm

I have written before about some educational challenges with the girls and Kalindi in particular.  After home schooling them both for a full year I had a pretty good idea that Kalindi would need some intervention of some kind.  I worked with both the girls on phonics and reading and Kira was doing well, but Kalindi was struggling.

Today Kalindi spent three hours in cognitive testing.  I won’t know the full extent of the assessment until a few weeks from now, but the doctor did say that she had short term memory and processing issues.  Not news to me. 

He also said that he was sure that they would have some ideas to help her.  Yeah!

I have no idea what all will be involved, but I am relieved to know that I am not crazy and that there really is something going on (or not going on) in that brain of hers that is making it harder for her to learn.  She is a smart girl.  I watch her and I can see that she has come up with creative ways to get around her shortcomings.  She can figure out how to get the right answers.  Just think what she will be able to do when we can channel that energy the right way!

I would appreciate your prayers for Kalindi and I as we navigate these waters together.  She and I have had a harder time bonding with each other and I know that our struggles in school have not helped.  I am hoping that she and I working on this together will be good for us.

I just have to add that I have been reading the book, “The Connected Child” by Dr. Karyn Purvis and it is excellent!  If you have an adopted child – or as she puts it, a “child from a hard place” – you will be doing yourself a favor to read this book. 

There are also videos of her speaking at a church that are great to watch (especially the discipline one) no matter if your child is adopted or not!  (You have to scroll down the page a bit to get to the video portion.)  I think combining Dr. Purvis’ discipline ideas with the very Biblical advice of Ginger Plowman in “Don’t Make Me Count to Three” will make for a perfect game plan for the girls – and soon a little rambunctious boy as well!


5 Responses to “Kalindi – Learning”

  1. sarah bess Says:

    You’ve been on my heart anyway. Will be praying for Kalindi. Our two little ones are very different in their learning styles and giftings. Amira is not at all behind Shayna on academics, in fact she can grasp math concepts more quickly. Shayna is very right brained and artistic. It can be tricky to know how to work with that, with Amira being younger.

    Just a couple of weeks ago I read your posts on grief. That’s a part of your life I hadn’t known about, Lori. Deepens the respect I already had for you.

  2. Lori Says:

    Thanks for the note Sarah and your kind words.

    I really love teaching my kids – I always have. But, sometimes it is harder than others. My heart just breaks for Kalindi as she struggles. She wants to read so badly. I know it is hard for her when she realizes that Kira is getting it.

    It is interesting how God made each of us differently – with unique strengths and weaknesses. It is fun to figure out how to help our kids reach their potential. Not just academically either!

  3. Lisa Henderson Says:

    I’m very interested to hear more about this, Lori….We’ve been talking about having more testing done on Peter. Hang in there….Peter is just now finally beginning to get the concept of reading 3 letter short vowel words in the last few months….After two years of work with him….It’s taken lots of work with a VERY repetitious program, that breaks down every little step…..If you’re interested for Kalindi, let me know!

    Lisa H.

  4. Theresa Says:

    I will be praying for you and Kalindi. I know how difficult it is sometimes and yet exciting at the same time. I also feel honored to be chosen to help my kids grow into their full potential. Looking forward to the zoo.
    Love, Theresa

  5. Thelma Says:

    I had not noticed any of these things about Kalindi! I guess craft days are not the right (or wrong) venue to highlight it. She is more likely to have leftover culture shock, too. I wonder how learning varies in India? We tend to think in American. Your learning specialist can think in child-think – globally. Your patience will pay off.
    Praying for you all,

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